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A Lesson from Cotton Buds on Sexual Purity

"It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable."
The Holy Bible (1 Thess. 4:3-4)

One fine Sunday morning, I was reading Undefiled: Redemption From Sexual Sin, Restoration For Broken Relationships by Dr. Harry Schaumburg. It is a wonderful book, addressing how to sustain sexual purity within marriage. As I was reading this book, all of a sudden, my eldest son, Joy, appeared before me with cotton buds, expecting me to pick. I didn’t understand why he brought them since I haven’t asked him. He generally doesn’t do such things without asking; later I understood, and you too I suppose after reading, he might have been led by the Spirit of God who wanted to teach me a significant lesson.

I could not resist picking that cotton bud, for you know how pleasant it is to roll it in the ear canal, although it isn’t safe to do often. I gently rolled the bud in the ear, in that thin and tender skin, experiencing a great sense of pleasantness. As I was enjoying this momentary delight, a thought struck my mind—what happens if I go deeper and deeper in the ear canal and reach the eardrum? What an acute pain it causes, the whole pleasure turning into an unbearable pain! Ooh, if I just cross the boundary of ear canal into the ear drum, the whole sense which is triggered with excitement would be quickly twisted with excruciating pain!

Then right at the moment, the wise Lord, I believe, opened my mind to learn a lesson from this incident. As pleasurable and ecstatic sex is, if I cross the boundary of sexual purity and fall into sexual immorality, the whole pleasure turns into terrible pain. Of course, the pain here may not be in the act itself but certainly in its consequences. Sex, which is within marriage, is a blessing, but sexual immorality, which is outside marriage, is a curse.

Ah, how many today have fallen from the mountain top pleasure into the deep valley of pain, just because of crossing the boundary of sexual purity! How sexual immorality turns goosebumps into guilt complex! How sexual impurity sucks lasting peace by giving momentary pleasure! O, how many have destroyed their personal happiness, marred their reputation, ruined their family life, abandoned their relationship with the Living God, all because of trespassing the standard of sexual morality (crossing the ear canal into the ear drum).

Take heed of these Scriptures: “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body” (1 Cor. 6:18). “Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor homosexuals nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Cor. 6:9-10).

Well, in light of inevitable, dreadful consequences, is the pleasure of sexual immorality (pornography, fornication, adultery, homosexuality, voyeurism, orgies and sexual fantasies) worth enjoying?



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  1. Oh! Thank you brother! for making to understand the problem, of sexual sin, it is a good example for all are who are in sin, for immorality. i thank God for remaining the problem, God will keep you safe.

  2. thanks for the relevant subject. One more illustration in this context. If you scratch with nailed-finger while itching immediately it will give pleasure , if you keep doing it will lead to some bleeding with burning pain. What seemed to give pleasure at the outset became unbearable burning at the end.


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